What is your opinion on love?

I sometimes feel like such a "hippy" when I think or talk about love. 

Love is everywhere, between your friends and family. That special someone you've been together with since you were 8 or that guy/girl that sits in front of you in class. 

Either way, its there. It may not be the same love you give to your mum or your partner, but its there.

I tend to ask the question a lot, what is your opinion on love. 

When I'm sat with people it turns into a lovely debate/talk about what others think love is about, or what it involves, or sometimes even what they've experienced. 

All in all though, everyone has something that they always go back to, they've all experienced love.

Before writing this piece I knew I wanted to get some opinions from others on what love is for them and I did.  The great thing about asking this, was at first some hesitated.. one even put "Cor Blimey." It's something hard to write about, but saying that everyone has an opinion on it. 

The question I asked is the title. 

'What is your opinion on Love?' 

Katy - 

The ability to be the best thing in the world. But also the ability to be the worst thing in the world. At the moment most important to me is the love i have for my friends and my family. I was actually just talking to a friend earlier who said she hardly ever tells her mum she loves her because she doesnt want it to be a throw away phrase, but i tell my mum i love her multiple times a day, on the phone or like today when she came back for her lunch break from work and left again. And just because i say it alot, in no way is it ever a throw away comment. Love is what we all strive for.

Anonymous Guy - 

Love is this word that seems to get tossed around so easily, 'I would love a cup of tea', 'I love that film'

But the feeling of love goes much deeper than that. As someone who is described as logical, sarcastic and guarded, I have done some of the most illogically things and soppy things due to being in a state of love. It is mind altering. But not to be confused with infatuation which people seem to misinterpret for love easily. From my experience it has made me willing to do or suggest things to do with another, not for my own enjoyment, but simply because it will make the other person happy. When I reflect it has led to some of my most selfless actions. But I have witness it truly bring out the worst side in people, all in the name of love.

Hannah - 

Love is amazing. Love is something that consumes us. Becomes our every thing. We love constantly. We can find it anywhere. 

Love is dangerous though. It's a risky game to play. It is what can make you or break you. Yet with every love that seems to break you, those around you who love you will build you up again. Love is always there, even in our darkest days

Anonymous Girl - 

I feel like I'm in two halves about love. I was the one in english class who defended Romeo and Juliet's love, when everyone else was calling them reckless and rash. Not to mention being a Disney fanatic, and I need not to elaborate on the ideals of love that presents. However, I would definitely not fall into the category of being a 'lovey dovey' person. 'Promposals' are the latest on a long list of growing phenomena that make me want to vom. Also appearing on the list are Facebook relationship statuses, cringeworthy gushing paragraphs (we all know some offenders there) and people who talk so intensely about being 'being love'. I guess it could be said that I'm just 'jealous', which leads into the other side of my feelings about love, the side that probably is an influence on my averse reaction to soppiness. I believe that love does exist, but worry that it won't end up finding me. This is silly, paranoid, blah blah blah, but I do hesitate to say 'there's someone for everyone', because, sadly, sometimes there's not, and I cannot shake the fear that I will be one of those people. Having said this, I already know I'm wrong. Love has already visited my life, in the form of my friends, who, as I discussed with one of my closest girls recently, can be your true soul mates, as opposed to a partner.

Rachel - 

I think there are different types of love, the love you feel for a relative or friend (or food;) ) is different from love you'd feel from a partner. In my opinion when someone falls in love - properly- they fall in love with that persons soul. That person suddenly turns into the most beautiful & desirable person in the world to them, even if they're not their regular 'type' - or gender.

Sophie -

I think its stupid that people think they can even describe love, everyone feels it differently, its a different emotion for everyone. although saying that i agree we all share it. I immediately thought of love for a sexual partner rather that love for a family or relative as they are completely different. You know you love someone when you start to love them more than yourself, I don't mean egotistical or in vanity, I mean in a life or death situation where you would put yourself first if they were to come in harms way. There is no specific description of love because there is no same love. No two love is the same, you don't feel the same sort of hatred or the same sort of jealousy as anyone else in this world. People make out love is really rare, but I don't think it is, if you have an open mind then it will come. Love is more than what you can put into a poetic sentence. love is simple love just is.

Ali - 

Love to me is like a virus that utterly consumes you and breaks your barriers and walls down and leaves you naked and vulnerable to someone. It is an ultimate game of trust where you leave your self totally at the mercy of someone else. Should they feel the same about you, you go on to build something. Should they break your heart you again build barriers and walls until someone else comes along. Being hurt and broken by loving someone in itself gives value to love when you find that one special person. It is a drug worth taking regardless of how bad the hangover is.

Tiffany - 

I'm not sure if my take on love is something that you haven't already read or heard, but its the way I choose to look at love, like truly look at it. If I have ever spoken to you about love, disregard it, because right now is my honest opinion. I like to sit and listen on what people feel love is about or there opinion is on it, I am someone that is very open to my opinion being changed about love, so I'm very easily swayed with what people say about it. 

But for me. 

I cant even sit here and explain love, because sometimes I just feel stupid, I'm only 19 and here I am trying to put my take on it, when sometimes I don't even know what love is. Yet on the other hand, I think love can be the most uplifting emotion you have, it takes me to a new extreme. It can either be over explained with lots of fancy words. Sometimes love isn't explainable, its just there. A raw emotion that we feel. Yes that feeling maybe little and small or large and mighty, but it lives inside of our souls. I have felt love, and I have felt heartbreak and I often put those two together. I in fact too often mix them and I even say love for me is shit.. but I know Its not. Love is taught throughout school and life as something we have to share with everyone and we get this perfect idea of what love is. I hate that idea of perfect love, there is no perfect love. There is just emotion which happens to be love. 

Now for me this was probably one of the most eye opening pieces I have written, well kind of, I hardly did anything, other than just read what everyone had put. It was a lot to take in, everyone I asked was of an age between 19-23, bar one person who is in there late 20's. Now I think maybe If I were to do this again but only ask people say about 30 or 40, then the outcome might be either very different or fractionally different. It would be interesting to see the results.

I just wanted to do this piece to show everyone, that love is different for everyone. I know we all know that but I think we forget. Love I think is something we should say more to each other, I don't see enough love around anymore. 
(P.s thank you to everyone who gave me there opinion it was massively appreciated!! You are some great people to me.)

I don't want it back.

You know when someone gives you something back of yours and you just don't want it back. 

Either its in bad condition so you're like no way!! 

In that rare case though you actually just want them to have it. 

I have a returned item that I don't want. 

Something in me, that I want someone else to have. 

People are looking for the item that was returned but I don't want to give it to anyone. 

Just you. 

Now readers either you're smart and you've figured out what I'm talking about. 

Or you haven't really thought about it and you're wondering. 

Well.. if you read my previous post form the other day 'Come and Go,' then you would know I had my heart returned. 

But theres this sticky situation, I don't want it. The only reason for me to have it back would be to give it to someone else, but I definitely don't want that. Now its that weird thing, my heart was returned by I don't have it still. No matter how many times she could bring it back to me, it will firmly be with her. 

I cant seem to get over this girl, and normally that would infuriate me, but I'm just seeing what its like. Ive never had this sort of break up and it feels weird, but its actually refreshing coming out of it, without wanting to harm them. 

I still love her madly and I would jump at the chance to be with her again, I cant help it. I always thought it would be weak of a person to still wait around or have something for someone after they'd broken up still, but now. Now I realise why. 

I guess its not fully sinking in to my head because theres a part of me that hopes that she still sees me as more as a friend. Even that 5% keeps the fire lit. She have to physically see me and tell me to leaver her alone, for me to ever listen and leave her alone. 

I still want to fight for her as I have so much left in me, but I won't because it isn't the right time. 

Theres only so much holding on a person can do. 

Either way I can do more.

The Start of something..

New things in this world is amazing. Whether that be a new born baby, an animal or even a new job. It's a phenomenal feeling, of pride and accomplishment. 

So when something/someone new comes into your life how do you celebrate that with out shouting it from the rooftops. 

Or do you just shout it from the rooftops. 

Now, you're probably wondering what an earth is new in my life.. Well readers there is something I need to tell you.

As some of you may know due to my posts on here, or if you're actually a close friend of mine that follows what I do, then you would fully know I am singer through to my bones. I live, eat and sleep music. It fuels me in everything I do. 

So when I get exciting opportunities I want to shout them from the rooftops confessing my love for what I being able to do. 

I recently got contacted by a very lovely DJ from London who has his own dance tracks and plays in some amazing clubs round the country. Now at first when he contacted me I just genuinely got excited, people telling me they like my music can make me happy, give me high for about three weeks!

Anyway, when he contacted me it was different this time, he wasn't just here to say he liked my music but also to be a part of his music. 

I felt like screaming, that this dude, who doesn't know me, wants me to write lyrics and sing them on his track. 

It finally made it all sink in that maybe one day someone will actually pay for a CD of mine, maybe one day someone will actually come up to me in the street and say 'OMG your Tiffany the singer right' I don't have to be famous, hell I don't gotta be rich, but someone recognising you for singing, and being truly inspired by your work. 

Now that is what I want. 

Stay.

Stay - The name of a song from 2013 from Rihanna. 

Stay - Something you say to someone when you want them to hang around a bit longer.

Stay - Something your family and closest friends do throughout your life.

Our journey throughout life is short, we are tiny millisecond in the earths life.

- Yet so many people seem to think the word revolves around them. -

Anyway, we meet people throughout our life that come and go, but then we also meet these people that stay. Our family, obviously for most we meet our family when were first born, for some though they don't meet for a good 15/20 years into there life.

Family have an obligation, they kind of have to stick around, now saying that I understand just like some, that sometimes families do not get on, making it next to impossible to have two people in the same room. You can't choose your family.

My family I don't doubt for a second will ever leave me. I have a close connection with my parents and my siblings and its something I truly cherish. There people I could call anytime of the day to cry and they'd listen, they have my back regardless of what I've done, there stood firmly by my side. 

My parents are supportive, like beyond what I see most parents doing. My mum and dad put there all into making sure I get the life that I want regardless of what it cost. They really push me to go for my goals and to really chase my dreams because no one else will do it for me. 

My siblings are amazing, there two people I truly just connect with. 

My sister is so like me its unreal, hey she's probably more witty than me and a hell of a lot faster with a sarcastic response, but were alike. They way we speak, our laughs and even sometimes they way we think!! I never really thought me and my sister look like a like, but apparently we do. 

My brother, I haven't known my whole life, I only met him when I was in my early teens, but that had nothing on my relationship with him, we also are so alike. growing up not in someones life meeting them and realising that your definitely supposed to have them on your side of the path throughout life. 

These four people I have in my life mean the world to me, I would go crazy if anyone hurt them. I cant do much but I'd fight until the end for these people, because they honestly my favourite. 

But, 

(now you're probably wondering why there is a but, when I write such nice things about my family why would there be a but) 

I have people in my life who aren't my family that I think will stay. There are some friends I have that I hope stay in my life, because there positive, there fun, and they make me smile. 

But there is one main one, now I didn't think I would change who I thought would be my best friend for life. I had a childhood friend who I thought I would be friends with until one of us died, although I think were always be friends, just not best friends. 

Now for me it changed, it changed when I knew I could ring this guy crying saying stuffs happened and he threatened to beat the ass of the person that did it, If I was stuck somewhere and had no money nothing, I could get a hold of him and he'd be there. 

This guy is truly someone in my life I never want to let go of, when you meet someone in your life that your soul mates with everyone assumes they mean soul mates who marry and are in love. I don't think that, I think sometimes you can meet your soulmate of a friend also. 

This guy that I'm writing about he is my soulmate friend. Through sickness and through health. I know he we always be around. 

These people in my life will all stay. 

Come and go.

Things in life they come and they go. 

People in life they come and they go. 

So how do you do stop that process, how do you continue to have someone in your life. Can you do anything to stop it? or is it just life that people will forever come and go.

For example, I talk to about a handful of people I went to secondary school with, that to me feels quite bizarre because I went through school without a care in the world. Thinking some of the friends that I made at school I would be friends with for at least another ten years!! 

I speak to a fair few more people I went to college with, a lot of them are still in my life and I try and stay in contact with them, not so much when I'm at uni as it is quite hard but when I come home I try and see everyone that I want too. 

Sometimes you can drift away from someone but then weirdly you come in connection again. I think that part is truly the amazing. 

How you can spend close to three years not really talking to someone then meet one day and suddenly its like nothing changed. 

I recently had something returned to me, my heart. Now I know that sounds a tad lame but its true, my heart was kindly given back to me. I don't begrudge this girl, and I far from hate her. Of course I still love her and I'd drop anything if she called me crying. 

The relationship didn't work, and I don't wanna go into too much, I know why it didn't work and I understand that. 

Me being me, I'm a bit of a hopeless romantic. Although a part of me used to think I was a realist I know I'm not. I'm hopelessly romantic from the big organs in my body to the tiny little standing strands of hair on my arms and neck.

So she really did make me into a better person, like I finally got things sorted, hell she inspired me and I like to hope I inspired her a little also. Today I did something I put off for years, okay I wasn't successful but I had to prove it to myself that I could do it. If it wasn't for her though, I don't think I would of initially said yes. 

I have a lot to thank her for, she has really opened my eyes, to see life in a different picture, hell I have been downright shit about the breakup but in myself I am happy. I'm no longer down. 

I haven't felt like this in a long time. 

So the outcome of this, is. She came into my life when I needed her most and she helped me, and now she's kind of gone, but I think/hope that she will be back in my life again soon, even if its not romantically/sexually.. because she's someone that everyone needs. I only hope that one day when she's in time of need I can return the favour.
I guess you can say there will forever be a special little fire in my heart for her, for helping me along my journey.

I dont do names in my posts.

But.

I will always thank you for all you ever done and will do.
Sophie.

My place.

I find this blog great for when I have a problem that

 I cant resolve, so I can write it down and then I 

don't think about it too much and

 it starts to become at ease within my head.